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Mailing Lists and Misadventures

I’m going to become wonderful. It’s a new beginning. Like a Phoenix rising… (Liz Lemon is run over by a biker). Or maybe this is going to be the worst day ever.

A few of my lady friends and I are part of an email chain / group, called Fancy Girls. We gab about much of the stuff that you’d see on blogs like A Cup of Jo and Twisted Sifter: clothes, food, travel, exercise, and whatever else goes on or is passing through our headspaces. When I created it, I thought: This will be a place where we can get it out. Vent. Share. Quiet the storm. Yet, what we actually manage to do is: Stir the pot. Fan the flame. And, send in the brigade. To us, we become an unstoppable force of nature.

You wouldn’t think it given our name, Fancy Girls, or the fact that we regularly start oh-so-serious emails with subject lines like: Who’s your #1 celebrity crush? and cry from laughter over songs like Cry For You, circa 1993 by a young Justin Timberlake and Ryan Gosling. In good humor, we aren’t very fancy either. We don’t typically wear heels or cashmere or lipstick—but do regularly exclaim how awesome Leslie and Ann of Parks & Rec look in their pink and purple hues while leading their government pals around Indiana.

But this is where the wine gets fine. For our group, it’s all about balance. Last week, GIF for Every Occasion was deemed a favorite and a surprising number of us joined the hand-picked and delivered to your home clothing service, Stitch Fix. We told each other: You are beautiful. You are brave. You are alive. And, like many other female-matters groups, we discussed what we think the COO of Facebook really means in her new book, Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead. (Listen to her interview with Diane Rehm on NPR, here.)

We often feel empowered. We experience the a pull of opposing perspectives. We reflect on whether a hectic, busy, successful professional life or a more calm, introspective, hobby/friend/family-oriented existence is better. We know that balance is slippery and propose that we can have whatever life we want.

Then, a post comes through of the Dalai Lama meeting Mr. Rodgers and we all take a deep breath and relax knowing that…

Maybe it’s impossible to have it all. The career, the family. But, if anybody can figure out how to do it, it’s me.

P.S. Quotes are from 30 Rock and featured in this video smashup: The Many Misadventures of Liz Lemon

P.P.S. My friend, Hollis, writes this blog about her adventures while running and running around in sunny California: The Misadventures of a Red Head

0 thoughts on “Mailing Lists and Misadventures

  1. An older gentleman from my neighbor recently said about our neighborhood communicating well “… what we lack here is a neighborhood cafe…”

    That’s true in most circles, isn’t it? In our age of technological innovation of all sorts – being creative with how we use technology and how we connect is important. I never thought a Google Group would make me so much closer to friends – but it has. 🙂

    1. Thanks Bori for your comment! It really has. We’re busy. We’re not right down the street. But, we’re all connected and close through technology — yay!

  2. Agreed! Not sure if you’ve ever read Habits of the Heart (link below), but the author proposes a need for “third spaces” where friends can gather outside of work and outside of home. (Kind of like in the tv show “Cheers”). You all have a listserv that functions as a virtual third space and that is pretty awesome. It’s also good that you all get together when you can as well! I think that is really important, too.


    1. Katie, thanks for this book recommendation — I’ve added it to my wishlist! What great insight too. A mailing list def serves as a virtual third place. Can’t wait to read more!

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